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How to flirt in the time of COVID-19 ?

Text updated on 2020-06-19


Social distancing, an essential tool to reduce the spread of the COVID-19 disease, is difficult to maintain over a long period of time and without a prospect of an end. The temptation to resume physical contact is large. To reduce the risks, for oneself and especially for our loved ones, particularly family members who may be more vulnerable, barrier gestures are the best means of protection against COVID-19.

In the wake of the SARS-CoV-2 epidemic, the closure of bars, restaurants, concert halls and discotheques, distance learning, and the large-scale development of teleworking have made it possible to implement social distancing, an essential measure to act as a barrier to COVID-19. Under these conditions, how can we continue to meet and interact with others?

The sudden disappearance of social places has made even more attractive exchange applications such as Zoom or HouseParty and dating applications such as Tinder or OkCupid. These applications have become remote exchange places to counter the imposed loneliness and to meet new people, and their use has exploded during confinement.

Social isolation is difficult to live with, is a source of discomfort for a large majority of individuals, and can lead to a deterioration in the state of mental and physical health. Since deconfinement, the trend has been towards a general loosening of social distancing, with more and more contact within a meter of each other. The idea of an occasional or loving relationship makes one forget the risk of the disease.

To have sex is to take the risk of being contaminated or infecting. Although the SARS-CoV-2 coronavirus has been detected in the semen of some patients, the question of whether COVID-19 is a sexually transmitted disease is not particularly relevant. Indeed, in sexual encounters, it is obviously impossible to stay more than one meter away, it is very hard not to touch the same surfaces, and it is difficult to prevent contact of secretions through respitory openings, even with a mask. This disease can be transmitted during sexual intercourse through the nose, mouth, and eyes.

When refraining from taking risks becomes impossible, it is advisable to evaluate the risks in order to reduce them as much as possible: evaluate the risks one takes for oneself but also the risks one forces others to take.

The risk of becoming infected with or transmitting SARS-CoV-2 varies according to several parameters, depending on whether :

- we live alone, as roommates, or as a family,

- we work at home or, on the contrary, in a humanly dense environment,

- we limit social contacts or, on the contrary, multiply outings and exchanges,

- we tend to be rather monogamous or polygamous.

The risks are greatest when living with others, with colleagues, clients or patients, living a life rich in social contacts, and not being monogamous.

Taking risks for oneself is a personal decision but the spread of COVID-19 depends on each of us. To make your decision, you have to consider the risks that you are putting all the people close to you and those who you continue to associate with, such as your parents, grandparents, or any other so-called vulnerable persons.

To protect our loved ones, let's continue to apply barrier gestures as much as possible, better protection against the transmission of COVID-19.


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The semen of 38 patients infected with SARS-CoV-2 in hospital in Henan province was analyzed. In 6 of them, or 15.8%, the semen tested positive for SARS-CoV-2 coronavirus RNA. Of the 6 patients, 4 were in the acute phase of the disease COVID-19 and 2 were in remission.

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Further reading

Why put on a mask?

How do you wash your hands?

How do we assess the risks in our daily lives?